Monday, September 16, 2013

Another Day, Another Reason to Panic (37 weeks, 4 days)

It seems like every day some one new is asking me how I'm feeling or commenting that I look like I'm about to pop or that it looks like the baby has dropped. I honestly appreciate the concern and interest, especially from friends, but after today I just feel kind of...done. I don't know how else to describe the way I'm feeling. I went into this birth knowing (I thought) exactly what I wanted. I just assumed Connor would come early, like Zooey. Last time at 37 weeks, 4 days I'd had a newborn for two full weeks. Now? I have two swollen feet, a belly that knocks everything over, stretch marks, pains when I walk or try to roll over, and fears about my choices that just won't quit. I made the mistake of watching The Business of Giving Birth when I ran across the documentary on Netflix.  I made a decision long ago that, yes, I did want to induce labor at 39 weeks, thank you very much.  Granted, I didn't think this was really something I'd have to think about.  One early baby means two early babies, right?

Turns out that isn't entirely true.  Now I'm faced with a big decision, one I didn't think I would have any trouble with.  To induce or not to induce?  I understand that little man needs all the time he can get to cook completely but I'm ready now.  How much should that factor into my decision?  (According to the article I just read, it shouldn't at all.  Being "over it" is not a good reason for induction.)  My dad is flying into town at the end of the week and I would love for him to be able to spend a few days with Connor.  I don't want to have to wait another year (or however long, I don't know) for him to be able to visit again.  I was literally in tears over this, watching the documentary and feeling like I was being slapped in the face for wanting these things.  I don't want the "joy" of natural birth like a lot of women do; I don't feel that I'm being cheated out of a life altering experience.  I just want my healthy baby, and no Ricki Lake, I don't care exactly how he makes it into my arms.  I don't feel that I need the experience of reaching down and pulling the baby out myself.  (That's not what this is about at all, I just wanted to punch Ricki in the face for daring to assume that all women are being cheated out of a "real birth".)

Okay, let's go on to the weekly update before I start the waterworks again.  Zooey looks at me funny when I cry, anyway.  :)


How far along?
37 weeks and 4 days.  Feels like it has been a billion years!
Maternity clothes?
The nights are nice and cool and I have one pair of maternity jeans that fits.  But I'm still rocking the sports bra and running shorts around the house.
Stretch marks?
Belly stretch marks...  :(

Sleep?
Turning over without pain is a distant memory and I sweat so much I wake up with wet hair.
Food cravings:
Cravings have kind of dwindled this past week.  I still want root beer but it isn't so much a physical need anymore.

Belly button in or out?
Has been the same for a while now. 

Movement?
Still practicing to be in a boy band, it seems. 
What I miss?
Fitting into my shoes.  Not feeling guilty about drinking caffeinated sodas.  Afternoon naps.
What I’m looking forward to: 
Holding my little one.  I've held so many other babies this week, it seems.
Milestones:
His growth has slowed this week.  Just working on cooking the rest of the way.  My cervix is still dilated at a solid three, but remains pretty thick.  Boo.

What baby looks like this week:

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